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Pursuit of Happiness and Life in the Absence of Empathy

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Are you on a pursuit of happiness? Unfortunately, too many individual's pursuit of happiness is tangled up in materialism. Happiness is not found in a thing. It is found in your life. It is right there, waiting to be found. All you need to do is find it. The mystery is that it is not a mystery.

Why can't you find it? Perhaps some one is getting in your way. Ponder your life for second. Everything you do involves others; in your work, play or social life. The only way this is not true is if you happen to lived on a deserted island. You do not. So as you live, you are interacting with others.

Happiness does not have to be fleeting. You make it that way. The choices you make on who to include in your life's community are fundamental to your happiness. When you chose to include some one who lives in the absence of empathy, you have erected a roadblock to your own happiness. Dump the roadblock and you might discover happiness.

Determining the roadblock is not easy. This is because you have empathy. Your empathy monitors your desire for community. You make your choice for interaction with your empathy guide. This is done all the time without your awareness.

Someone approaches you and your empathy kicks in with a response. You do not want to hurt their feelings by ignoring them. So you interact. If common ground is found in the initial exchange, then this interaction may lead to them joining your community. You have a new friend. Plans are made for a future interaction. So it goes.

However, if your new friend's life is in the absence of empathy, you may not detect it on this first exchange. You may not detect it for a very long time. In fact, the individual you are least likely to suspect may be the very one you need to dump.

How do you identify who to keep and who to let go of. This is a good question without an easy answer. Your awareness of another's absence of empathy is extremely difficult to recognize.

A reason for this is that you also make judgments with empathy's guidance. Strip away the thought of how you think another feels and notice how they really feel. Use your imagination and monitor the behavior of everyone in community. Your happiness depends on your ability to make judgments involving your community without the use your empathy.

Imagine this . . .

. . . their child falls and they do not run over to check on them.
. . . their sibling loses their spouse and they do not shed a tear.
. . . their parent has a stroke and they do not go to the hospital.
. . . their friend is upset and they do not offer their shoulder.
. . . their spouse is crying and they do not ask why.

That is a life in the absence of empathy.

If someone in your community behaves in a similar manner - dump them. They will not be offended. A life in the absence of empathy is in pursuit of control and your knowledge will be in their way.

Get out of their way and be happy!

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