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Going for a number is a high-pressure moment for most guys, they dont know when to do it and they dont know whether the girl will accept or reject them. Even after getting a number, it can be difficult to convert that into a date or another meeting. Heres what to do!
1. Conversation Leading to a Number Close
Most guys make the mistake of making small talk for a period of time and then just coming out and asking for a number. This is wrong. A connection can be (but usually isnt) built with small talk but it takes a lot longer.
Instead the conversation needs to be directed towards the goal at all times. A conversation which is directed at getting a number needs to be based around connections and common interests.
Example Questions which establish a connection, or common interest:
- What does she do when she isnt working? How does she spend her time?
- What food does she like? What places does she like to go to in the evening? Is she a party girl? Does she like the arts? What is something she would like to do but hasnt yet (eg salsa class)?
These are basic common interest questions that lead to a possible connection. Think of your own, there are hundreds. Taking two opposite examples, let me show you how to lead into a number close from a general conversation:
You: What places do you like to go in the evening?
Her: I like club/bar X.
You: Cool, its good there, have you ever been to club Y?
Her: Yeah/No
You: Well me and some friends are going there on X day, you should come.
Her: Yeah/okay
You: Excellent, whats your number*.
Or
You: What do you like to do when you arent working?
Her: I like to go to the theatre/exhibitions/museums/balet.
You: Have you been to that new show/exhibition/whatever
Her: No
You: Me neither, we should go
Her: Okay sure
You: Great, give me your number*
*You never ask outright for a number, it should flow naturally, and the close should be assumed.
How about if you cant find a connection, dont have time to, or for some other reason just dont have a conversation like the above? You can use the universal:
You: Youre cool/Its interesting talking to you, we should hang out.
Her: Yeah.
You: [hands phone] What are you doing on Thursday?**
Finally, most guys get numbers that flake. So.
2. How to minimise Flakeage:
Enter your number in her phone too.
Have a connection or something you can do together as described above.
And most importantly:
**Arrange a date there and then.
If you have already arranged a date, she can be thinking about it, and when you call she is expecting it. Use these tips and all your good interactions should end in solid number closes.
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